A. 1. Although it is not very prominent in our society, there are still many problems regarding adultery. Some people believe that having others outside marriage is acceptable because it is possible to love more that one person, but for me, this is a wrongful act. This is because during marriage, the couple swear to each other that they would be the center of each others’ lives. They form a commitment with God as their witness that they would stay with each other. Because of this, I believe that breaking this commitment is wrong and ultimately, the act of committing adultery is also wrong. A person should not sacrifice commitment for pleasure.
2. There are instances wherein a wrongful act is not considered bad or sinful because a sinful act involves the person’s knowledge that it is wrong, the person’s own decision and the action’s harmfulness. There are some situations wherein the act was wrong, but does not involve any or some of these three criteria. The action should be wrong and harmful because a simple act that is right and is beneficial to others cannot be considered sinful. The action should also result from a person’s own decision and knowledge because he/she could have simply been forced to commit that wrong act, or is simply a matter of self-defense such as killing a person who threatened him/her with a knife.
3. I believe that I am a moral rationalist because I do have my own side on whether things are right or wrong, but I still take into account the situation or the opinion of others regarding whether it is considered sinful or not. Being a moral rationalist means that you have to first take into account all the possible reasons why the act was committed in a particular event, but in the end, you still have to have your own stand regarding whether that act is sinful or not depending on the situation.
B. I think that what you are planning to do is wrong and sinful. I know that you like that other girl, but you already married your wife, and the commitment you hold is stronger than any other commitment you had or will ever have. I mean during marriage, you already promised her that you would always stay with her, so I don’t think you should cheat on her, now that both of you have gone through a lot of things together. Think about it, is it right to let go of your commitment with your wife just because you have found someone better? If you aren’t sure on what to do, I feel that you have to think it over, know the possible consequences of your actions. It would hurt her very much if she finds out, and I don’t think you’d want that. Assume that it’s wrong, you wouldn’t want to commit something sinful would you? You’re a very devout Catholic, don’t disregard the teachings of the church about commitment. Well at least the fact that you are talking to me about it means that you’re already having doubts regarding this issue. If it’d help you more, you can ask advice from my other friends who are more experienced in this matter, or even consult the priest to know more about it. Don’t pursue it just because of the pleasure it will bring you.